After a night at slimes.....

[Poobar]

Just curious (remember, polls are anonimous :))

[Tyrant]

Hmm... something seems not to be working here...

Almost half the people want to go home with strangers... yet nobody manages to do so, or perhaps nobody admits to doing so?

[Blink]

Or perhaps they all go to a club where most of the music is written by the emotionally dysfunctional, about being emotionally dysfunctional, because they are emotionally dysfunctional.

Or maybe it is because the only people who come on this site are internet nerds, and all the people who do go home with strangers have far better things to do than post about them not going home with strangers (lucky bastards)

Or (and this is my favourite theory) perhaps it is because all the people who are worth going home with have a degree of taste and style, and realise how uncouth it is just taking someone home for a night, and are looking for a far higher level of interaction and commitment, and perhaps all they are waiting for is for you to go and engage them in sensible conversation, instead of just trying to part them from their underwear.

So, in conclusion, I would say that they main problem is......they never come over and start talking to me :cry:

[Tyrant]

/me thinks he'll soon grow to like Blink very much...

[Blink]

/me thinks he'll soon grow to like Blink very much...

Point i) Blink is male
Point ii) He is very definitely heterosexual.

Just to avoid any confusion ;)

[Tyrant]

Point i) Blink is male
Point ii) He is very definitely heterosexual.
Me too, but I've nothing against making new male friends :).

[Blink]

Me either, just trying to avoid confusion

[Skylizard]

/me thinks he'll soon grow to like Blink very much...

Point i) Blink is male
Point ii) He is very definitely heterosexual.

Just to avoid any confusion ;)

Blink, a mouths a mouth LOL LOL still a bit more LOL

[Blink]

Blink, a mouths a mouth LOL LOL still a bit more LOL

A mouth is only as pretty as the face you find it in

[Skylizard]

Blink, a mouths a mouth LOL LOL still a bit more LOL

A mouth is only as pretty as the face you find it in

But if it sees you through the night in the dark, who are you to know otherwise...

[Blink]

But if it sees you through the night in the dark, who are you to know otherwise...

I take it you turn the lights off then!! :roll:

[CyberDragon]

Blink I think your last theory is the most spot on, I would happen to agree that also I am looking for a high level of interaction and commitment and someone of the sort of person that enjoys slimelight as well as a few other things would be indeed a good thing as there are not many people around that are (that I know of at least) and its not an easy quality to find.

It doesn't help that I'm shy around people I don't know so tend to just stick with the music and the dancefloor and I don't think I get much interest anyway :lol:

Tyrant is right though you are a person to like, as a mate like as I'm very straight :lol: :)

But it would be nice to find myself a fellow slimelighter to be with but only time will tell, who knows maybe I will be luck on the 23rd :wink: though the chance would be a find thing :lol: :)

[Blink]

It doesn't help that I'm shy around people I don't know so tend to just stick with the music and the dancefloor and I don't think I get much interest anyway :lol:

That sounds oh so familiar, but I am rapidly learning that you just need to say "Fuck it" and go and start talking to them anyway [And it has taken me a long time to learn that lesson.] Was far easier when I took my smarties ;)


Tyrant is right though you are a person to like, as a mate like as I'm very straight :lol: :)

Awww, a Blink love-in, you guys are so sweet. Just a damned shame neither of you are cute and female.


But it would be nice to find myself a fellow slimelighter to be with but only time will tell, who knows maybe I will be luck on the 23rd :wink: though the chance would be a find thing :lol: :)

Would be good, wouldn't it. I am hoping to be out at Slimes on 23, so maybe we could go on the prowl together? Although I am hoping to be going to see Lab 4 at The Fridge on 22, and then meeting people on the 23rd, so I may be in no fit state to do anything by Slimes!!

[dragonfly]

[quote="CyberDragon"]Blink I think your last theory is the most spot on, I would happen to agree that also I am looking for a high level of interaction and commitment and someone of the sort of person that enjoys slimelight as well as a few other things would be indeed a good thing as there are not many people around that are (that I know of at least) and its not an easy quality to find.

so damn right....

It doesn't help that I'm shy around people I don't know so tend to just stick with the music and the dancefloor and I don't think I get much interest anyway :lol:

i do the same but I'm not shy in general.....i guess it's that so many people at the slime (sad but true) give you the feeling: 'don't talk to me i'm superior'.....I know they're not but that doen't really help....

Tyrant is right though you are a person to like, as a mate like as I'm very straight :lol: :)

But it would be nice to find myself a fellow slimelighter to be with but only time will tell, who knows maybe I will be luck on the 23rd :wink: though the chance would be a find thing :lol: :)

[CyberDragon]

Would be good, wouldn't it. I am hoping to be out at Slimes on 23, so maybe we could go on the prowl together? Although I am hoping to be going to see Lab 4 at The Fridge on 22, and then meeting people on the 23rd, so I may be in no fit state to do anything by Slimes!!

Well sounds Like a plan maybe, hunting in a pack may give better results :wink: :lol:
Seriously though even just getting to know a few more people every time I go down would be good, perhaps then I might find someone interested in something as people would know me instead of seeing me as some random guy who takes up space on the dancefloor :)
Hope you enjoy Lab 4, I wouldn't mind seeing them myself as they sound rather good :) but I wouldn't be able to do so with work and money which I will be saving for slimes but hey maybe next time :)

do the same but I'm not shy in general.....i guess it's that so many people at the slime (sad but true) give you the feeling: 'don't talk to me i'm superior'.....I know they're not but that doen't really help....

That is true it does feel intimidating even though I suspect they don't realise they are doing it, people tend to group together and it can be hard for indiviuals to "break" into that circle but in all honesty that happens everywhere.

Time however will tell :)

[Blink]

Seriously though even just getting to know a few more people every time I go down would be good, perhaps then I might find someone interested in something as people would know me instead of seeing me as some random guy who takes up space on the dancefloor :)

No worries, as long as I am in a fit state, I will let you know my plans as soon as I know what they are.


Hope you enjoy Lab 4, I wouldn't mind seeing them myself as they sound rather good :)

I've seen them live quite a few times, and when they play their "harder" sets, they are really good. "banging" is the phrase ;)

[Tyrant]

I'll also hopefully be going on the 23rd. Pack hunting sounds... sounds... umm.... like a bad choice of words :P, but saying hi sounds good.

[CyberDragon]

Bad choice of words.....yes :lol: :P but saying hi is always a good option and of course a few drinks too, though I will most likely do that mainly in the Dev beforehand :D

[Blink]

though I will most likely do that mainly in the Dev beforehand :D

The Dev? :?

Altho the people who's house I am hoping to get a couple of hours kip at after Lab 4 have a habit of going there, so I may be there for a while

[CyberDragon]

Yeah I always like stopping off there beforehand as Its nice to be in a pub that plays decent music, none around here anymore as they have all gone upmarket :roll:

[houseofborgia]

tis the way, at least in leeds we have hard rock/fenton/fab cafe covering most forms of goth

[Sin-RazorAngel]

Ello you lot.
I've 'ad enuff of listening to "oh i wish i could meet someone"
I sympathise with you all i really do,what you need is ME!!!!
Granted i might be perving.......sorry admiring the beauty of the female form along with you but i can help you suss who's interested n who's not......
providing i'm not too worse for wear(sorry Blink babes)

And yes i am female......and very happily married but i still drool over the occasional beautiful female if given half the chance

[Tyrant]

To be honest I go for the music and atmosphere. The taking home of someone would be nice, but an added extra, and neither expected nor required.

Still having said that, how're we all going to meet up this saturday?

Oh, and since I've started to read John Norman's Gor books, "pack hunting" suddenly sounds a lot more fun ;).

[Necromancer]

To me, its the fact that Im going there to forget all troubles....get drunk, have a good time, finally meet up with Blink and/or borgie (if shes there)...and just basically forget about the fact that when I head home on the Sunday, Ill be serving in the Buffet Car on the train....thats the problem with working for GNER....its a fu**in 24 hour job

[CyberDragon]

I'll be there for the music and the chance to dance like the funky chicken :lol:
Seems that out of all the people I will be with on saturday night I'm the only one single 8O :lol: Show me the dancefloor.... :D
I am still up for saying hi to anyone here that will be about if we can arrange a place and time, at least then I will know who is who :)

Won't be seeing you at work in the GNER buffet as I will be on WAGN as it's cheaper :D

[Blink]

Cyberdragon, I know that feeling.

My other great talent is the ability that if I like someone, they normally become attached within 2 weeks (but never to me)

*Shrugs*

Drugs, Dirty Dancing & Pounding Techno music

[Vampira]

Sorry to jump in the middle of a conversation but thought I'd add my eyeliner quota for what it's worth.

I think most people have done all of those options at the end of the night at one time or another. It's hard to know which to regret more - going home with a stranger or not going home with a stranger you liked.

At the end of the day though, if someone's worth knowing in a more than shag 'em and then pretend you know them next time you see them, kind of way, then it's probably worthwhile not ripping thier clothes off the first time you lay eyes on them and biding your time a bit...

Having just recently become single again after 2 long years, I'm hoping that theory works anyway...don't tell if it doesn't...let me believe that some people actually benefit from waiting for a shag...

nice dream...

[Blink]

At the end of the day though, if someone's worth knowing in a more than shag 'em and then pretend you know them next time you see them, kind of way, then it's probably worthwhile not ripping thier clothes off the first time you lay eyes on them and biding your time a bit...


I actually have to agree with you here (very unblokeish thing to say, I know). There are definitely to types of the liasons.

There is the "Your name, let's worry about the minor details tomorrow" type liason, and then there is the "Well, here's my number, can we meet for a drink during the week" type.

If I was serious about someone, I would try and resist the urge to rip their clothes off on the first night!!

[CyberDragon]

My other great talent is the ability that if I like someone, they normally become attached within 2 weeks (but never to me)

*Shrugs*

Drugs, Dirty Dancing & Pounding Techno music

I have the problem where they say they are interested but in fact they run away!! :?
Happening too often of late and also with ones I would of liked to of spent some time with...... maybe they're trying to tell me something :wink: :lol:


There is the "Your name, let's worry about the minor details tomorrow" type liason, and then there is the "Well, here's my number, can we meet for a drink during the week" type.

If I was serious about someone, I would try and resist the urge to rip their clothes off on the first night!!

I agree, in fact thinking about it all my long trem relationships have developed from the latter :)

I would be very happy if I just meet someone that I could get on with and perhaps develop from there, casual liasons are all very good but do not have that emotional bond that makes it all the more satisfying and enjoyable. Until then I am happy to just have a laugh and make new friends, anything on top of that will be a bonus :)

[Tyrant]

Damn you! Damn you all to hell!

You've turned me into a me-too-er!

Serious relationships obviously are more likely to come from going slowly, but...

a) thats probably because most people who would go home with someone after one night in a noisy club probably arnt looking for a long term relationship.
b) sometimes you dont want a long term relationship either, just after you've broken up with someone for example, the last thing I would want then would be to fall in love again, urgh.

Oh, and as for meeting up, Im probably going straight to slimes, so I doubt I'll meet people beforehand, however I'll be wearing a black shirt, with two white triangles on each shoulder, should make me fairly easy to spot so please come over to say hi, as I'll be all alone again (friends all going to Reading).

[Vampira]

It's true - most people who do just out of an evening just to get laid aren't looking for anything deep and meaningful. But there's also the kind of person who only goes out to look for something long-term. I've had a few friends who've done this and it's not much fun. Basically when they find someone they really like, that's it - going out holds no purpose anymore and you end hardly ever seeing them.

I guess it comes down to what your purpose in going out actually is. Are you going out just to have fun? Are you going out just to get laid or are you going out because it's cheaper than joining a dating agency?

There's nothing wrong in going out and hoping to meet someone nice, it's when it becomes your sole objective that the problems start.

Incidentally - someone put my mind at ease here - are blokes more likely to respect a woman and want something more meaningful than a quick hump if she holds back and makes them wait for sex?

[Blink]

I would be very happy if I just meet someone that I could get on with and perhaps develop from there, casual liasons are all very good but do not have that emotional bond that makes it all the more satisfying and enjoyable. Until then I am happy to just have a laugh and make new friends, anything on top of that will be a bonus

Give that man a prize

Incidentally - someone put my mind at ease here - are blokes more likely to respect a woman and want something more meaningful than a quick hump if she holds back and makes them wait for sex?

Yes, you are more likely to respect a woman who is prepared to get to know you first, in the same way you would respect a man who was prepared to do that. Don't turn it into a point scoring exercise tho....if it means anything, you will both know when the right time is, and it can vary (The girl I loved most, I think we had slept together within a week of meeting..but it felt right, others it has been a couple of months).

If a bloke doesn't respect the woman enough to wait, then he isn't worth it, but if I woman isn't prepared to let herself trust the bloke, then you have to question her commitment (is she "holding out" cos she is a nice girl, or is she holding out cos she has "trust issues")

Don't stress the "when is the right time" thing, if it isn't right, then obviously the couple isn't right.


*Dr Blink is available for private consultations, just PM him*

[Vampira]

Why thank Dr. Blink - that is much as I suspected.

Problem is I have to actually meet someone who I want to shag (and vice versa) first... but that's a minor detail. :wink:

[Tyrant]

Lets all join in a rousing chorus of:
Hi everybody.
Hi Dr Blink.

[cybermuppet666]

I am a long-standing Slimes-goer and I have only once gone home with a 'stranger' - and it didn't even leaed to anything interesting - we sat up, discussed book and music then went to sleep! hehe!
Mostly due to the fact that I'm horrendously shy, I know a hell of a lot of the regulars and most people are there just to get wasted and hve fun, my 'pulling' record is low - well, for nearly 3 years attendance at a club, anyways! :)
I go to Slimes to dance mainly - it's what I enjoy most anyway! Though I'm always up for meeting new people - I'm always just too shy to talk to anyone!

I'll be the shortest one in the tallest boots... ;)

[Tyrant]

Well, anyone who wants to meet up with me, I'll have my avatar on one shoulder, perhaps both if I can be bothered to make up two more triangles and sew them on :). Should be easy to spot, come say hi.

Im still a little confused of the issue of what the majority of ppl want... I've heard slimes described as "a total meat market" yet nobody here at least seems to have bought anything. I guess its true that only the sad lonely types hang out on message boards :(.

[cybermuppet666]

I'm not sad, just socially inept...

^_^

[Blink]

Im still a little confused of the issue of what the majority of ppl want... I've heard slimes described as "a total meat market" yet nobody here at least seems to have bought anything. I guess its true that only the sad lonely types hang out on message boards :(.

I have never heard slimes called a meat market, but then that is just me, as someone wrote...

I go to Slimes to dance mainly - it's what I enjoy most anyway! Though I'm always up for meeting new people - I'm always just too shy to talk to anyone!

[CyberDragon]

I've had a few friends who've done this and it's not much fun. Basically when they find someone they really like, that's it - going out holds no purpose anymore and you end hardly ever seeing them.

I have had this too, I have in the past met long term girlfriends in clubs that hate being in clubs and around people :? Irony or just plain bad luck... :lol:
It would be nice however to meet someone who I can go out clubbing with as well as the stopping in part as I have always thought that is a far better way to do things, plus there's the whole thing about being able to do your own thing as well as doing things together, a nice balanced mix of independance and enjoying things as a couple :)
A nice dream perhaps but one that I hope to fulfill oneday :wink: :)

Well, anyone who wants to meet up with me, I'll have my avatar on one shoulder, perhaps both if I can be bothered to make up two more triangles and sew them on :) . Should be easy to spot, come say hi.

I will look out for that, I should think I will be in my cyberdogs arua top, the one with the anime girl on it with uv exo-armour :) . I have been watching too much anime this week :lol: :D


I'm not sad, just socially inept...

^_^

Not inept, just shy like the rest of us here it seems :)
I will keep my eye out and say hi to you as well :wink: :)
Keep an eye out for some guy with long dirty blond hair, glasses and the above mentioned top! :D

Well heres to a great night of dancing and friend making, I have a feeling it's going to be a night to remember for quite a while :wink: :D

[Tyrant]

I will look out for that, I should think I will be in my cyberdogs arua top, the one with the anime girl on it with uv exo-armour :) . I have been watching too much anime this week :lol: :D
Weee, I got one of them too, cute isnt she?

I wont be wearing it tho, since I got the bright orange one, lovely colour, but its just not quite black enough :P.